Happy Birthday to my Hero.

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Today is your birthday. Your friends planned a surprise party for you. God surprised us all by taking you away from us Saturday morning. It is so hard for me to write my thoughts into words. You’ve given me your strength to deal with this, but this is where I break down. You left us so suddenly. I don’t know why God decided to take you right now when none of us were ready. Everybody who has ever known you has loved, respected and looked at you as a role model. You were the kindest, realest, most sincere, big hearted, warm, responsible, not to forget the absolute most intelligent human being I was lucky to call Dad.

I shared a fond memory with your dear friend who came to visit us and see how mom was doing yesterday of your first time coming to America. You told us you wore a brown sweater and described it. Then you thought for a moment and said you think you still had it. You went down to the basement and 20 minutes later you joyfully ran upstairs telling us you found it! Lol! Then you tried it on and it fit, so you wore it the rest of the eve.

You had the sharpest memory and would remember the smallest things about people – especially  dates. Birthdays, the dates people moved here & there. You were the story teller and told such animated stories, you told us your fond memories of India and your favorite topic was partition lol.

I remember once in my early 20’s I came to you about a situation and you told me I can always come to you without hesitation and that I can speak to you as a friend. You always encouraged me and gave me the best advice, whether I would take it or not. Your advice was always right, whether I would take it or not lol. At the end of the day, no matter what stupid thing I would do, you would always tell me no matter what, you would always be on my side and support my decisions and that I have your approval as long as it made me happy. You told me that all the time. As long as it made me happy than you will be on my side 101%.

You gave mom and our family the greatest life! We had everything. We had a great circle of friends, lots of laughs, lots of great memories! You put the family first and you were extra responsible. We had absolutely no worries. You were also the smartest man ever and the one everyone used to go to for advice on anything from buying a home, career advice to marriage related advice.

I learned how to be strong and independent from you. I have my moments when I feel sad, but I smile thinking of you as I know you want me to be happy and you want me to be strong. Especially for mom. Mom is weak. This is the most devastating thing to have happened to her. Please give me your strength dad to help her get through this. I know I will, because you taught me as that was your duty towards me. Your duty towards her was to take care of her and never let her lift a finger. She never had to, now she’s scared and doesn’t understand that she still doesn’t need to because she has all of us.

Today is your birthday. Tomorrow is your cremation. I’m not ready for that. You are still with me and always will be. I will never refer to you in past tense. I love you forever.

I leave you with this song that was a favorite of yours. This melody has been playing softly in my head since Saturday when I received the worst news of my life. I remember sitting there watching some video of Punjabi wedding songs and trying to forward to a good song when you came into the room and sat on the floor with your newspaper (you always read the newspaper lol) and I was about to forward this song because it was repetitive but you told me to replay it. Again and again as you kept saying how nice a song this is lol. Now you are sitting there while the angels sing to you.

Mehndi Ni Mehndi

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About kbahri114

Hi! I'm an outgoing, bubbly New Yorker of Indian origin. I grew up in a Punjabi home and was raised with Hindu traditions in America. I am extremely in touch with my Indian roots and am thankful to have had been taught about my culture while growing up, which is why I have a great appreciation towards my culture and like to share it with others as well as learn about different cultures. At one point in my life I came to the realization about how we have been blessed with the gift of life on the planet earth. When I'm 90 years old lying on my death bed looking back at my life, I want to make sure I took full advantage of my life and explored this amazing world we live in! I knew traveling was something I had to start doing. I'm not the type to live in a bubble my entire life. I've always been intrigued by the world and different cultures. I have always wanted to explore and see as much of the world as I can! Life is all about experiences, meeting people, learning new ways and concepts and taking risks. I'm also very fond of photography, fashion, shopping, having fun, being loud, laughing and cracking crazy jokes, music and dance (I used to dance traditional for festivals back during the school days). This blog is meant to be fun & entertaining but it also provides my personal experiences and what you might expect to discover while traveling. It also will include random thoughts and stories since a kaleidoscope is meant to be a colorfully shaken mix of happiness! I hope you find my blog interesting, fun, funny & informative, but most of all entertaining!!

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  1. Oh Karen. I am so sorry to hear this sad news. May you find a way to make peace with a terrible situation. Please give your mom a hug for me. I am thinking about you and your family.

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    • Thank you Angela. I was thinking about you and your family the other day, as I remember your mother was close to my parents. Please give her my love. Take care of yourself. Xoxo

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  2. Karen
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    My sincere condolences. I pray that your family, especially you and your Mum, see the sun each morning and are reminded of the strength Uncle would want you to have. NEVER doubt if you have made him proud… You have and will continue to.
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    No one warns you about the amount of mourning in growth.
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    Vin

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